How many times has this happened to you? Someone you know, a friend, a family member, even a coworker, recommends a book that you just have to read. And you try to and you just can’t get through it. Not only that, you can’t figure out why this person, who seems to know you, would think this is something you would like. What to do? I’ve pretended, evaded and flat out lied when asked about the book in question. Not to say I haven’t really loved some of the books that have been suggested to me. A friend of mine turned me on to Lee Child’s stuff which I love and have recommended in turn.
Maybe the real question is why not just say that I didn’t like the book? Well for me there are many reasons. The main one being that I know how I feel when something I recommend falls flat. If asked I will name off what I’m reading or what I plan to read next. But as far as a straight up recommendation? I do it but with reservations. I become too personally invested in my family or friends enjoyment of the book. Did they like it? Do they think I’m an idiot for liking it? Maybe it’s one of the best books they ever read.
I really like it when people suggest books that I should read. I like getting recommendations. I just feel uncomfortable making them. I feel like I’m giving out an assignment. That the book just HAS to be read and there will be a test.
What was the last book you recommended? Did the person you encouraged to read the book enjoy it? Would they tell you if they didn’t? When was the last time someone suggested a book to you? Did you read it and enjoy it or muddle through because you thought you should?