According to this Dakota County Criminal Complaint, a stepfather with a history of domestic violence and assaults on other people, was arrested for felony domestic abuse after he got into an argument with his stepdaughter while her mother slept through the incident.
From the complaint:
S.M.F. stated that Defendant approached her telling her that he was going to “beat her ass.” She said Defendant put his finger on her eyelid and pushed it into her eye. Officers observed that S.M.F.’s left eye appeared watery and there was a tear running down the left side of her face only. S.M.F. stated that Defendant then smacked her with an open fist on the right side of her face.
S.M.F.’s mother, L.A.F., was also interviewed and said she was asleep and didn’t see anything. She called police the following evening and stated that her daughter was mentally ill and exaggerates. She told officers that she had observed Defendant poking S.M.F.’s forehead multiple times as he lectured her during the previous evening’s incident.
The most disappointing thing here is that the mother claims she slept throughout the incident and then later covered for her piece of garbage husband who has two prior convictions (one for assault and the other for domestic abuse). However, one may wonder whether the two specific pieces of evidence against him, if viewed without knowledge of his two prior convictions, should really be considered domestic abuse.
While I don’t want to lessen the charges against this guy due to his rap sheet, as a father I want to understand the line which is ever-shrinking between right and wrong when dealing with children. Let’s say that if he was indeed “poking her forehead” during a lecture and she moved because of annoyance or another reason as children often do when they don’t like to be lectured, it may have poked her in the eye a bit and caused it to water. And, seriously, an “open fist”? As if he would take the time to curl only the top part of his fingers at the second knuckle to create the “open fist”. Either it was a slap (most likely) or it was a closed fist.
What do you think about this one? Do you believe the defendant actually used an “open fist” or did he simply slap his stepdaughter and the cops want to make it sound as bad as possible? What do you think about the mother covering for the husband with two related priors and calling her daughter mentally ill instead of either staying out of it completely or taking her child’s side? Whatever you have to say go ahead and comment on as I’d love to hear your thoughts.