Where I’m Told I Don’t Have a Mom?!

Yesterday while heading into a Burnsville business I have affectionately renamed “The Adult Treehouse”, I was approached by an elderly Asian woman with a cane. While I normally would not have mentioned her race, as she came towards me she held out a card which was attached to a lanyard around her neck and it was made clear to me the woman did not speak much, if any, English. On this card was a name, Burnsville address, and a phone number. After a few gestures it was made clear to me that I was to call the number on the card for instructions.

I called the number and spoke to a man who told me this was his mother, she was probably lost and lived nearby, and to put her on the phone. After she spoke to him she handed the phone back to me and he told me that I should just drive her to the address on the card which was likely nearby. Assuming he lived somewhere in the general area, I told him I’d wait with her until he arrived. Being that he lives in Brooklyn Park, he pressed me to just take her home, something I admittedly I replied to with something like, “You have got to be kidding me.”

Uncomfortable putting an elderly woman in my car and driving her several blocks home, sadly considering all the bad that could come from a man driving an unknown female home, I eventually agreed to temporarily care for the woman while I dialed 911. Dispatch rolled two Burnsville police cruiers who were en route almost immediately. Being that we were only two miles or so from the police station I rightly assumed they would be there in short order. Unfortunately when I told the woman that the police were on their way to escort her home she immediately, and quickly, began to hobble the wrong way on Nicollet away from me. I contacted 911 again to report her change and they asked that I stay with her as best as I could so that officers could locate her.

Both officers arrived and handled the situation from there. I tweeted about the incident and praised the Burnsville PD for their quick response:

Many thanks to the Burnsville PD for picking up the lost elderly woman who spoke no English but had a card w/her address around her neck.

However, while I did everything in my power to safely ensure the woman was cared for, I received a text from the man I had only a few minutes prior called about HIS mother who was wandering Burnsville lost:

Aside from that being the most ridiculous statement ever, I was flabbergasted. Not only did I help this woman by calling him but I ensured she was brought home by the safest ride I could have procured for her. I felt I did far more for her than he did, asking complete strangers to assist her in getting home safely, yet I’m the bad guy?!

Again, many thanks to the Burnsville PD and to the two officers who responded so quickly to help resolve this situation!

What do you think about this one? Should I have been chastised for the way I handled the situation? Would you rely on strangers to help your lost and confused mother get home? Would you have called 911 instead? If this happened enough to have your mother put this around her neck, would you do more to move her into a facility which was better equipped to handle people who may get confused or lost? Whatever you have to say about this one go ahead and comment on as I’d love to hear what you have to say.

Mother Burns Child’s Face With Iron?!


Iron originally uploaded by Eric Schmuttenmaer

According to this Dakota County Criminal Complaint, a West St. Paul mother has been charged with malicious punishment of a child after it was alleged that she used a clothing iron to burn her seven year old son on the face.

From the article:

A police investigator made contact with the seven year old male child. The child reported he is physically disciplined by his mother when he is “bad”. He explained the discipline includes “whooping” which sometimes involves his mother using a black belt with a silver buckle to discipline him. The officer asked the child about the visible mark on the child’s cheek. At this point, the police investigator explained the child’s body language changed and he became reclusive, quiet, and nervous. The child then disclosed his mother, Nachelle Denora Haggins, hit him with a black belt resulting in the injury to his cheek. The child explained he was scared, sad, and it hurt when Haggins struck his cheek with the belt. He stated Haggins directed him not to tell anyone how he received the injury. It is believed the injury occurred on or between May 4, 2013 and May 10, 2013.

The police investigator reported he observed the child to have an injury on his cheek that was consistent with a burn and whose shape was consistent with a clothing iron being pressed against the child’s face with the tip of the iron pointed towards the child’s mouth. A search warrant was executed on Haggin’s residence and police located an iron and a black belt with a silver buckle, inside her residence.

Haggins told police the injury on the child’s face was caused on May 4, 2013, while he was at the park in St. Paul or was near Marion Street. She explained the child had been running around with other kids and had fallen. She stated she had not been watching the child when he fell because she was on her phone.

Does burning a child’s face with an iron constitute more than a gross misdemeanor charge of ‘malicious punishment of a child’? Shouldn’t someone who burns their child be sentenced to something longer than a maximum of one year? Shouldn’t this person be burned repeatedly all over their body while in prison for their rest of their useless lives? Whatever you have to say about this one go ahead and comment on as I’d love to hear what you have to say.

Government Helps Parents With Underage Drinking?


Alcohol City originally uploaded by Arthur Caranta

According to this NPR article, the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration launched a campaign to help parents begin talking to their children, as early as 9 years of age, about underage drinking. By creating the ever-so-creatively-named, “Talk. They Hear You.” the government hopes to use ridiculous txt spch and fake contracts to get parents talking to their kids about drinking.

From the article:

OK, so how to do it? The new website, called “Talk. They Hear You,” lays it all out, from data points explaining why underage drinking isn’t safe to templates for a parent-child pledge.

Then there’s practical advice, such as never serving alcohol to teens in your home, and making it clear that you don’t want your child drinking at parties or getting in a car with a driver who’s been drinking.

The toolkit includes scripts for discussing touchy subjects like why it’s OK for parents to drink; a parent-child pledge; and even suggested texts you can send: “Have fun tonight. Remember, alcohol can lead you 2 say things and do things u wish u hadn’t.”

While the most important reason I didn’t touch alcohol until college was because my father gave me sips of alcohol such as the cheapest and most poorly distilled gin ever invented (something I will still not touch to this day) and 10 year old cans of Coors Extra Gold, I find these government campaigns to be more silly than helpful. I can appreciate there are plenty of parents who don’t care to share with their children anything about life and expect them to find out themselves or even feel that their children can experience it as they had growing up and this government campaign could be some sort of wakeup call. However, this is more than likely a waste of taxpayer dollars as children will be even less likely to pay attention when Mom or Dad sends a text that says, “Alcohol can lead u 2 send txts that u wish u hadnt, just like this 1.”

What do you think about this one? Do you think the information provided by the government will help you talk to your kids? When did you start talking to them about drinking? Did you know you should start at age 9? Do you have plans to just let them go off and experience life themselves? Whatever you have you have to say about this one go ahead and comment on as I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Elko/New Market Residents Happy by Luck

According to this article in the Star Tribune, the first ever resident survey in Elko/New Market shows that residents are extremely happy with their city when compared to other similarly sized exurbs. However, the reason for their happiness seems to relate more to the fact that residents outside the city, located in the larger county, are footing the bill for much of what Elko/New Market needs.

From the article:

Despite a bare-bones police operation, with many hours covered by sheriff’s deputies, the city’s rating for police patrols is in the top 10 percent in the metro as a whole and the top 5 percent among exurbs, city officials say.

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It’s part of Scott County, meaning it can take advantage of an aggressive program of sharing costly equipment and technology with the county and the three big suburbs to its north — things like excavators, which can cost a fortune yet be rarely used.

Listen, being fiscally conservative is a great thing and no one is complaining about a city which takes it seriously. However, while sharing less critical resources such as excavators makes sense and having access to the County’s services are part of paying taxes there, it seems almost wrong to rely on limited Sheriff resources while other cities have to fund their own large police departments to ensure proper coverage and then tout it as a great thing.

Elko/New Market has learned from many of the mistakes of its neighbors and is taking the proper approach to growth by waiting for actual need rather than confusing ‘need’ with ‘projection’. Still, there is a right way and a wrong way to do it and to brag about using the services of the county paid for by other much larger groups while claiming fiscal conservatism will likely rub some the wrong way.

What do you think about this one? Is Elko/New Market somewhere you’d like to live? Do you think they’re taking it a little too far when they are able to piggyback off the success of other local large suburbs by sharing resources and having to fund little of their own? Whatever you have to say about this one go ahead and comment on as I’d love to hear your thoughts.